Not everyone you meet will end up as your happy ever after, so it’s likely you’ll have to end a few fledging relationships during your time on MySingleFriend. Though breaking up is hard to do, it’s important that you don’t take the easy way out by ghosting someone. Here are some tips on letting someone down gently.
Don’t hang about
As soon as you feel sure you don’t want to see them again, tell them. Don’t string things out any longer than necessary by going on half hearted dates. It’s not fair on them and it’s wasting time that you be spending with someone else.
Meet them in person
If you’ve spent a few dates with this person, do them the courtesy of meeting them in person to explain. Whilst it might feel difficult to do, it will make both them and you feel better. If you really can’t bear to do it in person, at least do it on the phone.
Be honest(ish)
Rather than making up outlandish stories to save their feelings, keep it simple and honest. Say something like ‘I’ve enjoyed spending time with you but I’m not feeling a spark’. However, don’t go too far and start laying out what you perceive to be their faults. There’s no use in needlessly hurting their feelings.
Listen to what they have to say
When you’ve said your piece, give them a chance to respond rather than rushing off. They might tell you they are surprised or disappointed, or they may agree that the relationship wasn’t going anywhere. If you stay and have a chat with them, you’ll both leave feeling better.
Be clear about any future interactions
Once you’ve said you aren’t interested in them romantically, be clear about what your future relationship might be. If you genuinely want to be friends, say so. But if you don’t , be clear about it so there is no confusion about how things will proceed.
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