Getting yourself online and looking for dates is a proactive first step on the road to meeting someone wonderful. However, there are some bad dating habits that can undermine your online dating experience and make things trickier than they need to be. Here are some mistakes that you should be taking care to avoid whilst enjoying your search for that perfect someone.
Don't reject someone on the basis of photos alone
Photos are of course a crucial element of every dating profile. They show you how a person looks and also give you a good insight into their friends, family, hobbies and interests. However, you should fight the urge to select or reject people based on looks alone, because, whilst photos are useful, they can't show you what a person is actually like in real life. If you're rejecting lots of people based entirely on looks, you could be missing out on a genuine connection that can only be felt face-to-face.
Don't get bogged down in the details
If you obsess over the details it will take you a long time to go on a date, let alone meet The One. Likes and dislikes are important, but don't reject someone on the basis that they love Game of Thrones, whilst you think it's a load of old fantasy nonsense. Concentrate on the broad strokes: do they live in the same city as you? Do they look like a fun person? If they like watching TV and you like watching TV then that's enough for now: you can argue over what to watch at a later date.
Evaluate the tone of their profile
Rather than trying to read in between the lines of every profile, evaluate the tone as a whole. Do they seem well-adjusted? Pleasant? Friendly? Funny? Or can you detect a hint of negativity or bitterness in there? Do they seem sincere? The overall tone of a profile can convey an awful lot, so, once again, don't get too bogged down in the details. Also, if they mention their ex in their dating profile it's very possible they're not yet over them, so beware!
Don't get too attached based on the profile alone
No matter how amazing someone seems on paper (or screen), you won't be able to get a real idea of them until you actually meet them in the flesh. You learn so much more about someone when you're sitting opposite them: do they make eye contact, do they smile a lot, are they rude to the bar staff, are they constantly checking their phone? Don't get hung up on them in any way until you've actually met them, or you'll be in for a lot of disappointment.
Don't convince yourself you've met 'The One' after only two dates
If you badly want to find The One, it can be tempting to rush into a relationship quickly, only to find that, once you've got to know them, they aren't who you wanted them to be. Take things slowly so you can truly get to know them before leaping in with both feet. It takes time and patience to get to find out who someone really is, but it will be worth it in the end.
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